Not that there's anything wrong with being over 40.
Some of my best friends are over 40.
But, hypothetically, could an over 40 year old go through a midlife crisis?
And if so,
|WTF??? This is where that would apply.|
Seriously though, given my emotional roller coaster this past week, I have confirmed that there are pros and cons to having had a "geriatric pregnancy", or being a mom of "advanced maternal age".
By the way, thank you to the gynecological society for coining those terms of support.
I mean, having my kids towards the end of my 30's was great because:
- Giving my social life over to my children wasn't such a trial since I already cashed in all my tequila coupons, and my ability to stay up until 2 am had passed.
- I'd done so much therapy that I'd run out of material.
- I had lived a lot. Made a lot of mistakes. A lot. So, now my kids wouldn't be able to pull the wool over my eyes with their teenage manipulation. (However, I had the luxury of not growing up with every mistake documented on the internet. So I don't know what that's like. Thank God for small miracles.)
- I'm such a believer in therapy, it was time to groom the next generation to perpetuate the industry.
- Supposedly, during my 20's and 30's I built emotional skills to now parent with patience and wisdom in my 40's. (I just can't say that without giggling a little.)
But it hasn't all been a bed of roses:
- Every time I leave my keys in the refrigerator, start a sentence only to fade off in an effort to remember what I was hoping to say, or forget my loving husband's name, I silently wonder if these are early signs of dementia. (A thought I'm sure my 28 year old counterparts don't entertain.)
- As I weather bouts of significant mood swings, my doctor has to remind me that I'm the mom of two kids under 6 because I'm grilling her on the early symptoms of "the change".
- Never mind that I'm just tired. I know all moms are tired, but through observation, the younger ones are navigating it a hair better.
Any opinions on whether it easier to me an older mom or a younger one?